Ok, this one isn't a very "serious" story, but it does show, perhaps metaphorically, how the abrupt banning/prohibition of behaviors may manifest itself. What do you think may have been the underlying cause of this act? From http://www.kitsapsun.com/news/2008/may/01/unsatisfying-sex-life-leads-to-womans-meltdown/
Unsatisfying Sex Life Leads to Silverdale Woman's Meltdown
Kitsap Sun staff
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Highly intoxicated and dissatisfied with her sex life, a 28-year-old woman was arrested Tuesday for stealing her husband's wallet and later assaulting the deputy who booked her into jail.
The meltdown, which deputies witnessed along with the couple's 3- and 4-year-old children, started when the husband, 24, had told his wife they had three hours to quit smoking, drinking, swearing and engaging in some sex acts because "they were going to be good Christians now," the woman said.
The man said she had woken him up to have relations, but then became disappointed and angry.
Kitsap County deputies were called to the apartment on the 11800 block of Majestic Lane NW at 2:38 a.m. after a neighbor overheard yelling, crying and slamming doors, the report said.
When deputies arrived, the woman denied any assault had taken place, and repeatedly, without sparing a vulgar euphemism, told the deputies about how unsatisfied she was with her sex life — some of the time carrying around a half-gallon of whiskey while doing so.
During an argument with one of the deputies, the woman picked up the family's 20-pound dog and threw it at the deputy, who caught it, the report said.
The deputies convinced the couple to separate for the night, and the man said he was taking their children to a hotel. But the 28-year-old returned to the apartment and took her husband's wallet, military identification card and keys.
The woman resisted being arrested for theft — her screams were described as "blood-curdling" by one of the deputies. The deputy who drove the woman to jail reported she questioned his manhood, asked God to forgive him because "he knows not what he does," and "donkey-kicked" him in the shin while he attempted to walk her from his patrol car to the jail, reports said.
She was booked for second-degree theft and third-degree assault.
13 comments:
I think this woman was upset and dissatisfied, thats what lead her to do what she did. And the only way she sought to get her way or for someone to listen to her was by doing what she did. I mean if she had a problem with what her husband had decided she should have talked to him about it first, but who knows if she did or not.
I feel that anyone with a healthy sexual appetite would be upset with having only so many hours to clean up their act and be a "good Christian". She was clearly angry and frustrated which led to the dispute between her and her husband.
The actions that followed were more than likely caused by the whiskey she was downing when the cops finally got there.
The woman could have resolved the issue by talking to her husband. Hurling the family dog, and donkey kicking authorities, is very un-Christian and I doubt her actions will cause her husband to change his mind about his new no nookie rule.
I'd be pissed too if someone woke me up in the middle of the night to tell me to quit smoking, quit swearing, and that I couldn't have sex how I wanted to anymore. I wouldn't know if he was serious or not. Saying that would piss anyone off. From what it sounds like, this lady's husband wanted her to be someone she doesn't want to be. This probably wasn't the first time these issues were brought up and that, combined with the whiskey, probably pushed her over the edge. They probably shouldn't be together. Neither one of them is going to compromise their lifestyles enough to make that work.
This lady had quite the breakdown. I feel for her in the fact her husband is completely ridiculous. Who tells somebody they have to cut off all that stuff in the middle of the night out of nowhere like that? Clearly if she is being restricted like that and she doesn't agree there will be a problem. She probably should be a little more collected, but her husband seems like the real problem here.
It seems to me she married someone who she didn't know very well. Being that their children are only 3 and 4 years old, they probably haven't been together very long. If he is so hardcore Christian to the point he doesn't think they should smoke, drink, swear or have pleasurable sex, I doubt that is coming out of the blue. If she was walking around with a bottle of whiskey, then I would say, yes quit drinking and smoking, esp since they tend to go together. But swearing isn't a problem as long as it's under control in certain situations, and cutting out sex is just crazy. I would be very upset if I were that woman, but it could be that her behaviors are more a reaction to the way he decided to bring up the topic rather than the topic itself.... She is still married to him.
Obviously she was frustuated, but to go as far to thow the dog and kick him in the shin is completely absurd. It sounds as if she needs some good cognitive behavioral therapy to address her sexual frustuation and perhaps her unhappiness with her husband. It sounds like she may hvae some anger issues, but then again anyone who is slamming whisky the way she was has issues to beging with. She deserved to be hauled in by the police for her actions, but I wonder what her future holds for her regarding her husband and their sex life?
Veronica V
Alcohol seemed to be a part of this crime just as in class we found out it is common in many crimes especially violent and domestic cases. Perhaps the husband was right, clearly this woman needed something and whisky was not it. I think the most important aspect of her altercation with police is that she threw her 20lb dog at the officer and he caught it. This woman seemed to get off pretty easily and had the husband been the one drinking and assaulting officers this would have not been as interesting a reading and he probably would have been viewed in a harsher light rather then his wife was. She will simply be known as a drunk mess he would have been a monster who acted improperly in front of his young children.
-Robert S.
This was a complete meltdown, aided by alcohol, and attempted to be ended by police. Anger and frustration combined with alcohol can mean different things for different people, but such a display leads to public ridicule, which will probably only serve to frustrate the situation further. This definitely does not demonstrate good problem-solving skills. Dissatisfaction with your sex life or your marriage does not entitle anyone to lash out in this way. I think her husband was unreasonable, but her actions were her choice and I don't think the blame can be placed with him.
-Rose B.
Somehow I have difficulty believing that this couple didn't have some other major issues going on at the time of this incident. Everyone fights, but this was definately some sort of mental breakdown. As other posters have said, what ever happened to just sitting down and trying to talk things out? It's entirely possible that their issues weren't going to be solved in a single night, but I'm sure that discussing their problems would do much more in the long run then just completely going off the deep end. Also, this is just another case where alcohol just added to an already difficult situation.
I can see why the women got upset and reacted the way she did. However, based on her reaction it is clear why the husband was having this talk with her. Now i dont agree with his decision to quit all of those vices just like that but it seemed like he may have started the conversation to finally get it out into the open. She started to drink after he raised the issue and wouldn't have sex with her, which shows she definitely has a problem. The cops did everything they could to control the situation and the woman, break down or not, got what was coming.
I think the lady overreacted, but then again I don't expect most drunks to be rational. I agree with everyone else and feel that she could have talked to her husband about it like an adult instead of having a temper tantrum and launching a dog across the room. In this society, marriage is founded on compromise... it's sad that this situation could have possibly been reported as a domestic violence incident over sex and cigarettes - but hey, that's America for you.
I believe the women acted like this becasue she wanted her way. She was dissatisfied that she had to clean up her act in the next 24 hours and dealt with it by going crazy. I would be pissed if soemone woke me up in the middle of the night and told me to get my act straight. But she did casue a domestic disturbance and that is illegal. I think she needs to get a divorce and live the way that makes her happy.
I understand why the woman was angry but there was no need for her to act the way she did; if my husband woke me up in the middle of the night to tell me some crap about having three hours to stop smoking, drinking and clean up my sex life, I would definitely be angry but wouldn't go as far as to put my business out there for everyone to see and hear, I think that is just embarrassing. I would try to reason, but I think the relationship is too far gone since the husband is ordering me to do this instead of making a mutual decision as a married couple and as partners. And what exactly is the definition of a "good Christian"? Unless you're Mother Theresa, i doubt there is a person who is the epitome of a Christian in today's world, with so much corruption and hypocrisy, many have forgotten what it means to be a "good Christian". I doubt the husband is the model of moral virtue and is in no position to demand this of his wife. I feel that the woman should cut her losses and seek it elsewhere in a healthier relationship(more in regards to the sex, less with the smoking and drinking); in todays world where a man can sue his wife for not having sex with him, this course of action should be available for the woman as well, if her husband refuses to fulfill his obligations within the marriage.
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